Jessi, keepin’ the TMI factor in check
Personally, I do NOT care to read the public comments of how much you ‘oh so love’ somebody. Or the fact that you will be getting laid in 2 days and your current love interest better be ready for a rockin’! (insert shudder here) You know why? I mean, other than the fact that most of us are out of 7th grade? Because that should be semi-private here, folks!
Goodness knows, I can share some good sex stories, just like my GF’s can attest. Especially after a few drinks. HOWEVER, I do not post it on the comments section of my BF’s page. If I have something like this to share, I will email him directly, send it to his inbox, call him or (and here’s a thought) just fucking TELL HIM in person. Of course I love my BF, but I will refrain from embarassing him and myself in most instances. At least, if I can help it.
Really, I’m truly thrilled you have found the love of your life. Or in some of my friend’s cases, your love of the month/week/season. Whatever works. But please SPARE me the sap, I don’t watch soap operas for a reason. Trust me, if I’m rolling my eyes at your comment, there’s a reason.
An occasional ‘I love you’ is cool. I won’t gag. An entire litany of ‘you are the reason I am living, blah, blah, blah’ is enough to bring my firmly settled lunch special back up onto my keyboard. If you get a FedEx in the mail, rectangularly-shaped, I’m just sending you my regurgitated regards. And you owe me a new keyboard.
One noted exception – you are planning to post the pictures of the special upcoming raunch fest for us to share. Then feel free to spout away with all your feelings for ‘poopsie’ or ‘lovey-bear’. Cause I’ll skip the ‘verbage’ and just enjoy the visuals. Video is acceptable as well.
Rantasaurus Says: Ooh sugar dumplin’, you’re so sweet. You’re so sweet, I can’t wait to eat. *wink* C u tonite, luvr.
I absolutely agree with you about the sappy comments, but for a slightly different reason. I don’t like that they seem to be slightly altered variations of each other. It’s as if they can find the SAME digital sparkly pic of a rose and glue that into the comment then the only finishing touch needed is some half-literate phrase regarding their “luv” for the nitwit they’re posting to. MySpace is a cool concept for sure, but damn if hasn’t become the gold standard for UGLY on the web! lol
Also, I agree the video/pic posting issue.. We want PROOF not promises!
Am I allowed to comment on my comments? LOL
I should have put that in there, heartgnosis. I am guilty of the picture comments, but I at least try to find totally funny, tasteless or just plain odd ones, glitter-cute is not my thing.
I must also agree with you, I find it is a sign of two things. One, bad public posting etiquette. Two, insecure, jealous people trying to lay claim to someone they are unsure about.
On the etiquette issue, I see public comment posting on Myspace becoming a big mess. Often times things that should be said in an email are simply posted in comments. I have also seen people post comments in sarcasm about other people who are friends, and if read in a serious tone, could be considered a big diss. This of course implies that by leaving the comment on your page you are encouraging the bad behavior.
Sometimes removing the comment makes the initial poster feel dissed, and can cause trouble in relations that way as well, especially if they fall into the second category…
The jealous, insecure people who leave comments like that to lay claim to their BF or GF really get me. If your lover was wanting to be claimed they would have a picture of the two of you together as their main profile pic. And nothing screams “My S.O. has read my myspace email and threatened to leave me if I don’t post a pic of her and I together” more than a “we’re together” profile main pic.
Thanks for posting this piece – I’m glad to not be the only one who has these frustrations!
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Thanks Stephanie! It was a combo of growing frustration on the topic, a really bad day and the need to vent. Just to clarify, they STILL do this, although he has since changed his profile to ‘private’. I guess now just those of us privileged enough to be his friend get to read the drivel….err….poetry.